Can We Fail At Feminism? If Yes, Are We?
This post is about some recent activity that has been flourishing because of a blog post by Nice Girl on the blog Nice Girls Like Sex Too. The blog post, titled “The Dark Side of Geek Feminism” reports the perception of one woman on attending OSCON (a foss conference). Rather than the post being about the usual issues at open source conference like sexual harassment, sexual assault, and the like, this post is about being excluded and “shamed” by the geek girl community for wearing low cut tops and being flirtatious. The poster had experienced this kind of this from the geek community before, and thus claims to have amped up her behavior (looking to draw some blood, it seems).
This post definitely started a shit storm—I came to it because I have a google alert for “open source sexual assault” which returned to me a disgusting rant on reddit about how feminazi trolls are always making up sexual assault stuff because they’re bitches in solidarity with Nice Girl’s post (which, I imagine, she finds equally as disturbing).
Geek Feminism, which is probably my favorite hub for geek girl activity, wrote a response in defense of Nice Girl, calling out the geek feminism community. Author Terri writes, “There’s a difference between hoping to see better representation of women at different levels of geekery on panels and in high profile spaces and just being a dick to attendees. Watch that you don’t cross that line.”
Some authors wonder if the backlash to Geek Feminism—which is still very new—is here. Bruce Byfield who has been pretty active in the geek feminism community writes, “Meanwhile, the only good thing about this situation is that it clarifies issues. I may have had differences with individual Geek Feminists, but, in such circumstances, the answer to the question, “Which side are you on?” suddenly becomes very simple. The Geek Feminists have the potential to improve the FOSS and free culture communities. Those who attack[sic] them can only assure that the present state of affairs continues.”
Now, I don’t think that some people getting snubbed by others in the community is signaling the end of anything—but Bayfield has a pretty good point. Feminists have never been a single, unified group that believes one thing. There have been many waves, countless oppositions, and seemingly infinite nuances to opinion. But, theoretically, and hopefully, we are all moving in a similar direction: increasing the respect of women in a field where they rarely receive and often have to fight diligently for it. As one commenter on Bayfield’s article wrote, “Be careful that a well-deserved kick in the butt does not turn into a witch hunt against feminist geeks, because there are certainly many men (and even more pseudo-women IDs) who would welcome any and every opportunity to undo the work of Geek Feminists.” Well said. We can police and criticize and improve our own communities without needing to splinter, right?
I read Nice Girl’s article, and I read her follow up, and it seems to me like she is not trying to undo the geek girl community. And maybe it is painful to hear about one’s own shortcomings, particularly when many, many women and men have fought so hard to gain what little respect they have won. But condemning those who could be allies has never worked for feminism. Creating bullshit rules and regulations hasn’t worked either. I hope that Nice Girl can align with the geek feminism world, because her position is not an unreasonable one. Likewise, the community should be seeking women with differing positions and opinions in order to strengthen the community overall.If you like the work we do here at Not Your Mama's Gamer and would like to help support us, please check out our Patreon campaign.